By definition, a hero is a person that is admired and idealized for their courage, outstanding abilities, and noble qualities. In a world where heroes are often celebrated, there are those who remain humble and overlook their own valor. I invite you to meet two remarkable individuals who embody the true essence of heroism. I had the privilege of sitting down with Vietnam Veterans Mike Simmons and Paul Palmer, and what unfolded was a conversation brimming with wisdom, courage, and invaluable life lessons. Their journey together unveils an extraordinary friendship born out of war, loss, triumph, and survival.
The Beginning
Let me take you back to where it all began. Both men, accompanied by their wives, made the daunting decision to move to Grand Living at Tower Place, leaving behind their former lives in different states. Mike, initially hesitant about the move, sought solace in the company of fellow residents. It was during this search for connection that he encountered a kindred spirit in Paul Palmer. Unbeknownst to Mike, Paul and his wife Linda had shared similar reservations about moving to Grand Living.
A New Found Friendship
As Mike and Paul engaged in conversation, their shared wartime experiences and survival instincts forged an unbreakable bond. Many soldiers who had fought alongside them did not return home as expected. The realization dawned on Mike that having a trusted companion like Paul was a rare and invaluable gift. Their friendship flourished through card games, particularly cribbage, joint workouts at the gym, and even attending Rock Steady Boxing sessions together. Sharing daily meals in the Bistro and frequenting Capitol Dining for dinner became cherished traditions for both couples. When asked to describe their friendship, Mike aptly stated, “It is nice to be friends with someone that has your back.”
Remarkably, Mike and Paul also share a common diagnosis: Parkinson’s Disease. While the disease’s origins remain uncertain, it is plausible that their exposure to Agent Orange during their time in Vietnam contributed to their condition. Undeterred by this shared adversity, the two men stand together like brothers, fighting against Parkinson’s Disease with an unwavering spirit. Paul’s message to all is clear: “If you have a chance to do something about Parkinson’s Disease, do it.”
Heroes Among Us
As our conversation shifted towards memories of their service, Paul reminisced about the pranks he and his fellow sailors played on newcomers. They would jokingly refer to themselves as the “smoking lamp” monitor, causing bewildered young sailors to search for a nonexistent lamp that signaled their permission to smoke aboard the ship. Paul’s anecdotes brought to light numerous terms and historical events, such as Puff the Magic Dragon (AC-47 Spooky), the Enola Gay (Boeing B-29 Bomber), Alpha Strikes, and the Hanoi Commitment. Through these stories, I learned about the incredible impact Puff the Magic Dragon had on saving lives, and even how the Enola Gay had a connection to Paul and Linda’s early apartment. Mike shared his own experiences, recounting the loss of a roommate at West Point academy on the day before his return home. These remarkable individuals hold a wealth of knowledge and history within them, reminding us of the vast tapestry of American heroism.
Life at Grand Living at Tower Place
When asked about their life at Grand Living at Tower Place, Mike immediately expressed his gratitude for the peace and tranquility it offered him at this stage of his life, especially after spending two years in a hooch during his time in Vietnam. Paul playfully added, “…not to mention no one is shooting at us.” Their shared sentiment revealed their profound appreciation for the safety and serenity they now enjoy.
Amidst the tales and reflections, the word “hero” resonated within me. In the presence of Mike and Paul, I witnessed true courage and pure nobility. These men, who had grown up serving their country and fought alongside their brothers, humbly deflect the label of heroism. They carry themselves with dignity and bravery, facing life head-on. Their bond goes beyond mere friendship; it is an unbreakable support system, forged through shared experiences and an unwavering commitment to one another. This new chapter of their lives brought them together in ways they never could have imagined.
When asked what advice they would give future generations, their words resonated with wisdom and selflessness. Captain Michael D. Simmons urged others to strive
for a world without war, emphasizing the importance of dedicated support from those who have your back. Lieutenant Michael Paul Palmer stressed the significance of commitment to teammates and brothers, doing one’s best, and working together to save lives. Their advice carries the weight of lived experiences and the profound lessons they have learned.
Mike and Paul, I extend my deepest gratitude for sharing your journey with me at Grand Living. Your humility and honor are immeasurable, and the community is honored to serve you both. Mike, despite your protestations, I must say that you and Paul are heroes in every sense of the word. Your story inspires us all, reminding us of the unbreakable bonds forged through the crucible of war, and the remarkable friendships that emerge from the darkest of times.
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